Health Matters: Earrings? Get Your Parents' Permission. Plan B? Don't Bother
My 17-year-old daughter finally convinced me to let her get a second set of ear lobe piercings. Off she went to the mall with my wife. When they arrived, they were surprised that she could get pierced only if accompanied by a parent. Furthermore, my wife was required to complete a consent form. It was no simple form; she needed to initial it six
times and sign four times. Ten points of consent. Now that is getting parental permission.
Juxtapose this with the recent judge’s ruling that opened the door for Plan B to be available over the counter for all ages. Previously, those under 17 years of age were not allowed to buy it.
Plan B is the so-called “morning after pill” that can be taken within 72 hours of intercourse. According to the package labeling, it has three mechanisms of action: the first is an inhibition of ovulation, the second is a thickening of the cervical mucus, and the third is a thinning of the lining of the uterus. The third action is potentially abortifacient.
Imagine that, at school, kids need parental permission to take acetaminophen or ibuprofen. To get her ears pierced, my daughter needed her parent there to sign four times and initial six times. However, girls younger than she can go to the drug store and buy Plan B, once, twice, or as many times as they want with absolutely no parental supervision.
Is it only me, or are we failing our kids? Some of our children are sacrificed at the altar of the false god called “choice”. Others are sacrificed at the altar of the false god called “reproductive freedom”. Being a parent or a child is no walk in the park.
Pray the following prayer before reading the scripture below: Father, I can’t understand your Word without your grace. I acknowledge my weakness so your power can reach perfection in me. Send your Holy Spirit to remind, teach, and guide me to the Truth. And may I share, as soon as possible, whatever you teach me. Amen
John 2:1-5 – On the third day there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples were also invited to the wedding. When the wine ran short, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Woman, how does your concern affect me? My hour has not yet come.” His mother said to the servers, “Do whatever he tells you.”
What is the Lord saying to you personally? How can you put this into practice in your everyday life?
May is the month of Mary, our Mother, the cause of our joy. Mary showed great concern for the family when they ran out of wine, and upon her instructions to the servers - “Do whatever He tells you” - Jesus changed the water into wine. Our Lord showed great concern for the family’s welfare then and is ready to solve the problems that come up with families today. His presence at this wedding feast and remedy to the problem are signs of His love and concern for marriage and family.
Each member of the family needs to do what Jesus says, such as husbands loving your wives even as Christ loved the church and handed Himself over for her. Wives, be subordinate to your husbands as to the Lord. Children, obey your parents (in the Lord), for this is right. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.
The answer is in His Word and doing what He tells us to do. Having Jesus and Mary as invited guests in our families solves many problems when we cooperate. What a wonderful relationship between Mary and her Son! Mary is our Mother, and we need to do what she tells us to do, which is whatever her Son tells us, which brings great joy and rejoicing. There was great joy at the wedding feast when the best wine appeared on the scene.
We have to ask ourselves if we have the faith Mary had in her Son. She was invited with her Son and some of His disciples, and Her words to us are “Do whatever He tells you.” Jesus turned the water into wine and the wine into His Blood at the last supper. As a member of my family, am I willing to drink from the cup of Blood where there is total self-giving and surrender to those in my family? The state of marriage is in great trouble today because families are not doing what God is telling them. We will find great joy in listening to Mary and doing what her Son tells us to do.
In Jesus' love,
Deacon Ken & Marie
COLFS Celebrates New Office with Blessing
If you receive the updates about COLFS through this newsletter or by email, you know that we have eagerly awaited the move to our new San Diego office in Mission Valley, across the freeway from Planned Parenthood’s administrative offices.
On April 10, 2013, Coadjutor Bishop Cirilo Flores blessed all the areas in the new space. This event was celebrated as an open house for all our supporters to witness. Tours of the facility were led by the employees, staff, and board members, and appetizers were served in the open-air common-space courtyard of the building.
We would like to thank Bishop Flores, a passionate advocate for life, and all who attended to show that the office blessing bears important relevance to our mission. In addition, we would like to extend our gratitude to Sam and Edna Aziez, who generously prepared and donated the delicious Mediterranean food.
View photos from our Open House >
After over 20 years of marriage, COLFS’ board member Tom Dobrino and his wife, Marianne, welcomed their first child! Born on January 8, 2013, and weighing 5 pounds, 4 ounces, Abigail Marie’s adoption was the culmination of prayers answered in the affirmative for the doting parents, their extended family, and friends.
The Dobrinos are living examples of COLFS’ mission to prevent abortion through helping mothers either keep their unplanned babies or place them for adoption in loving and stable homes. Without the courage of birth mother Hannah, Tom and Marianne would not have been blessed with their daughter.
According to a study published by the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute in March, 2012, 55 percent of adoptions are open and 40 percent are mediated (where the adoption agency acts as a liaison in the transfer of information between the birth mother and adoptive parents). Through their open adoption, Tom and Marianne developed a genuine affection and admiration for Hannah, who chose them to be Abigail’s forever family.
On April 1, 2013, Abigail joined the Christian community through the Sacrament of Baptism performed by San Francisco Archbishop and COLFS Advisory Council member Salvatore Cordileone at Mission Basilica San Diego de Alcala.
Please join us in welcoming Abigail and congratulating Tom and Marianne. Also, let us remember to pray that the hearts of women contemplating abortion may be turned to healing through answering the call of adoption for their precious children.
Well, where do I begin? I found out I was pregnant in July. My boyfriend and I had just broken up a few days before. We were trying to get pregnant, so it didn’t come as a shock to me. To him, I think it did. I feel he was having second thoughts, and I was right. We were broken up, so the idea of getting an abortion came from everyone. Myself, personally, I’m totally against it, but everyone put the thought in my head, so I thought about it—a lot.
I was about 7-8 weeks along, and I called an abortion clinic, where the process was explained to me. While I listened, I cried and cried. I hung up, called back, asked to hear the process again, and cried more. I made an appointment then canceled the next day. I couldn’t imagine going through such a horrific procedure that will kill my baby, let alone the baby we tried for.
So a few weeks passed, and I was going back and forth in my mind. Then my boyfriend and I sat and talked. He came to the conclusion that an abortion was best for both of us. I agreed, but deep down I knew it wasn’t what I wanted. I left for a family reunion, then the next week I had an appointment. The Friday evening before the appointment I called COLFS and talked to Vita. She insisted I came in before my appointment the next morning, but I couldn’t promise her I’d make it. She just told me to follow my heart and do what’s right for me, not my boyfriend or anyone else.
That night I tossed and turned—didn’t sleep. I woke up in the same bed I conceived my baby in, knowing a few hours from now he wouldn’t he here anymore. We got in the car and drove. It felt like the longest drive of my life. I cried the whole way. We pulled up to the parking lot and parked. The weather was eerie cold and misty, overcast, no ray of sunshine anywhere.
We checked in, and as I filled out the paperwork, I cried as I read the words “vacuum suction”. I’m the only girl in there crying, or more like bawling out of control. My boyfriend took me outside and told me to get it together and control my emotions. I told him, “You prepare to get a child sucked out of you and see if you’re not emotional.”
He said, “It’s what’s best for us right now.” I agreed, but in my heart, I knew it wasn’t right. It wasn’t what I wanted. So we went back inside and waited. I couldn’t stop crying, so he said, “Babe, let’s just go get something to eat.” But I couldn’t eat anything. We went outside again, and my boyfriend said, “Let’s go.” I didn’t believe him, but he meant it this time, so we left.
As we got to the car, a lady—one of the many angels—gave me a little charm with a saint on it and a brochure for COLFS. Little did she know, we were on our way there already. The staff was so nice, so caring. We spoke with Debbie, and she gave us our first ultrasound. The reaction on my boyfriend’s face when he saw our baby move was priceless. He finally saw why I couldn’t kill something living inside of me. The baby was moving around and my boyfriend was amazed. It was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. They gave us our first few items for the baby: clothes, blankets, and a little teddy bear. Things I’ll never get rid of.
I could honestly say that, without COLFS, I don’t think I’d be in the same situation. I would have probably gone through with the abortion and been in a horrible depression. COLFS has been there from the very beginning. Debbie and Vita are my saving graces. They have absolutely no idea how much they mean to me and how there will always be a place in my heart for them.
I hope all the girls out there and their partners, who are considering abortion, think again. As I sit here and write this, holding my son in my arms, I wouldn’t change anything for the world. No matter what you’re going through, just give COLFS a call to talk to them. Tell them I told you to and tell them everything. They’ll help, I promise. And know your baby is a blessing, a gift from above. Your baby loves you from the moment he was placed inside you.
(NK’s beautiful baby boy was born on February 22, 2013, weighing a healthy 8 lbs, 2 oz. Praise God!)
It has been a blessed and busy couple of months for COLFS’ Campus Outreach Project. The Lord is faithful and great strides have been made. For starters, back in March, I was so blessed to meet with Casey Vroman from Students For Life of America. We discussed possible ways to utilize student-run pro-life clubs as a means to attain access to public high schools and colleges. For the remainder of her stay, we visited California State University San Marcos (CSUSM), UCSD, SDSU, Mater Dei High School, Our Lady of Peace Academy, and Cathedral Catholic. We spoke with preexisting clubs,“clip boarded” flyers around campus to raise awareness, and visited Newman Centers as well as other campus ministries.
Later in the month, I was invited to speak at CSUSM’s “Catholic Cougars” club. It was only one day later that the students initiated the efforts to begin Cal State San Marcos’first ever Students for Life chapter. God is good!
In April, I had the privilege of speaking to students of Mater Dei High School as well as the high school youth of St. Mark’s parish in San Marcos. The next day, students began to form their own pro-life organization at Mission Hills High School.
In an effort to reach as many students as possible, please feel free to contact me at email@example.com with any referrals, suggestions, or feedback. Most importantly, I ask that you continue to pray for this growing ministry. Words cannot adequately express my joy and excitement as God paves the way for His young people to rise up and restore the culture of life.
From the President
As we settle into our new Mission Valley office, plans are underway to move our Escondido office to a bigger location— directly across the street from Planned Parenthood. Look for more details in the June newsletter.
Our hearts are saddened by the federal judge ruling and subsequent court battle that may result in making Plan B available over the counter to girls of all ages. As you read Dr. Delgado’s column about Plan B, consider Erica Tobin, our Campus Project Coordinator, at high schools, quickly expanding the presence of COLFS and our life-saving mission to the youth. Erica plans to partner with other groups to establish pro-life clubs and show a viable alternative to Planned Parenthood on every local campus. Through these efforts and our advertising campaign, our presence is known on dozens of San Diego County public and Christian high schools, and it continues to grow.
Please pray for our outreach, the youth, and young adults who are pressured into taking birth control and seeking abortions.
Health Matters: It's Great to be a Person
The North Dakota legislature passed a bill that, if approved by the citizen voters, will defend the rights of personhood for all North Dakotans, born and pre-born. The one-page Senate Concurrent Resolution No. 4009, if ratified by the voters, will simply insert the following powerful verbiage into the state constitution: “The inalienable right to
life of every human being at any stage of development must be recognized and defended.”
This is the first time any U.S. legislative body has passed a personhood declaration. Indeed, this is an exciting step for defenders of life.
While we know that abortion and euthanasia proponents will fight this bill, those pro-lifers who are “incrementalists” may not be too happy with this amendment, either. They fear that a full assault on Roe v. Wade will predictably lead to a U.S. Supreme Court case, which they prefer to avoid unless they feel they have a slam-dunk victory. They are concerned that the present court will issue another judicial setback to the pro-life movement. Stay tuned as the drama unfolds.
Pray the following prayer before reading the scripture below: Father, I can’t understand your Word without your grace, I acknowledge my weakness so your power can reach perfection in me. Send your Holy Spirit to remind, teach, and guide me to the Truth. And may I share, as soon as possible, whatever you teach me. Amen
John 7:37-39 – “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and exclaimed, ‘Let anyone who thirsts come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as scripture says: ‘Rivers of living water will flow from within him.’ He said this in reference to the Spirit that those who came to believe in Him were to receive. There was, of course, no Spirit yet because Jesus had not yet been glorified.”
What is the Lord saying to you personally? How can you put this into practice in your everyday life?
What do you suppose Jesus is calling us to drink? We sense He is calling us to drink of His love, His forgiveness, His mercy. He longs for us to come to Him when we feel lonely, unwanted, and most of all, unloved. When we come to Him, we satiate His desire to love us, heal us, and make us whole. So many of us look to others to fill that void in our hearts for love and accep- tance, when, in reality, He is the only one who can fill us with the love we so long for. How many fill their need with food, drugs, or even another person, who can never satisfy that longing in our hearts to be loved?
Jesus thirsts for our love. He waits day after day for us to turn from that which will never satisfy and come to Him. We have to ask ourselves if we really believe in His love that will satisfy our every desire. What will happen to those who do believe? The Holy Spirit will flow from within them to love the un-loveable, to kiss the un-kissable, to touch the un-touchable, to wash the un-washable. When you are filled up with His love by spending time with the Lord each day, you then are able to love the same way He loves us.
Jesus has been glorified, and all those who have been baptized have the Spirit of God in them. You might ask why we don’t see the manifestation of the Spirit. Could it be that sin is blocking the Spirit from moving in us? Repent and
believe in the gospel. Stop having premarital sex, stop blaming others.
We put out a proposal to you: drink 8 glasses of water a day, and while drinking, think about the scripture passage above, memorize it, and talk to Jesus about it. Say to Him that you are thirsty, that you need Him. Tell Him you are coming to Him right now to receive His love because you need it, you thirst for it. If you really believe it, the Holy Spirit will flow from you to others to love them as He loves you. Water is cleansing, so go to Jesus and be cleansed by the Baptism of rebirth. Repent and believe in the gospel. Repent and believe in Jesus’ mercy, love, and forgiveness. Then, as Jesus told the woman caught in adultery, “Go and sin no more.”
— In Jesus’ love, Deacon Ken & Marie
From the President
Spring is a great time to sit in your garden and have tea with friends. How about 300 of your closest friends? May is the month of Mary, and there’s no better way to celebrate our Blessed Mother than to have an event in her honor on May 19th, which is Pentecost Sunday this year. Without the protection of the mantle of Mary, COLFS would not be able to receive the graces of her Son, who gives us the strength to persevere in protecting life for the glory of God. Claire Reiss has generously offered her stunning home for the event, and I hope to see many of you there to enjoy the day.
In other news, as Vita LaFond demonstrates in the Crisis Pregnancy story on the next page, we have experienced a dramatic increase in clients due to the national exposure of treatment for abortion pill reversals through our website and word of mouth. A client can call from anywhere in the world to seek help after taking the first dose of a chemical abortifacient, such as RU486.
Our staff is working hard to find providers in all states who will work with Dr. Delgado to see patients and reverse the deadly effects of the drug.
In March, Dr. Delgado had the privilege of sharing this protocol with other pregnancy centers and doctors across the nation through a webinar with Heartbeat International. Dr. Delgado explained how progesterone can be used to counter mifepristone and ultimately stop the impending abortion. A recording of the webinar will be available soon on our website.
Please continue to pray that we reach the women who have ingested a chemical abortifacient—and all crisis pregnancy patients—in time to save their babies’ lives and, ultimately, save the women from a lifetime of regret and heartache.
God bless you all for your support of our ministry!
Golf Tournament Benefits Saint Joseph Academy & COLFS
(from L-R) Clarissa Longo, Malika Berens
& Sofie Delgado
(Sofie Delgado is President of Saint Joseph Academy High School Associated Student Body)
On March 18, 2013, my school, Saint Joseph Academy, hosted our first golf tournament to benefit our sports’ program. God blessed us with beautiful, sunny weather for an enjoyable day of golf. It was truly inspiring to see many Catholic organizations and individuals join forces to raise money for Saint Joseph Academy.
The event was co-hosted by COLFS. Saint Joseph Academy is blessed to have close ties to such an incredible organization. Without the help from COLFS, the event would not have been nearly as successful as it was.
Golfers connected to Saint Joseph Academy and COLFS attended the event to contribute their support to both groups. Sixty-eight golfers participated in the tourna- ment; and the positive energy throughout the day was uplifting.
(from L-R) Scott Maxwell, Gene Villinski,
Cy Kellett from Immaculate Heart Radio
and Erica Tobin
Additionally, there were representatives from Immaculate Heart Radio, Miles Christi, and Catholic Answers. The presence of these organizations at the tournament demonstrated to everyone the value and necessity of Catholic education.
On behalf of Saint Joseph Academy and all of our athletes, I sincerely thank all the golfers, supporters, and volunteers for their hard work and generosity. We hope to make the golf tournament an annual event to continue supporting both Saint Joseph Academy and COLFS.
Crisis Pregnancy: Over the Moon for Baby
When I receive calls for medical abortion reversals, the voice on the other end is usually that of an anxious woman: afraid, confused, sometimes angry, but almost always female. This voice, however, was that of a young man calling about his girlfriend. I asked “A” some questions to find out why he was calling.
“So, what does it mean to you that your girlfriend (“M”) is going to have your baby?”
A answered, “Hey, that’s my child, MY baby! I want it, yeah, and I want M to be okay.m”The Sunday before, M’s parents had taken her to a doctor, where she was injected with something. A had no idea what it was, didn’t even know the doctor’s name, but M’s parents were angry and didn’t want her to be pregnant.
My task was clear: find a doctor in their area near Los Angeles, as quickly as possible, who was willing to use the Abortion Pill Reversal protocol. To save the baby, treatment must be started within 48 hours to reverse the effects of mifepristone. I let A know I was going to keep him informed about my progress in finding a doctor and told him not to worry.
There was no help in their town or in the town closest to them. I made calls to several doctors’ offices, but there was no one who wanted to help. I asked the Holy Spirit to give me a name of a doctor or a pregnancy resource center where I could get results for M, A, and their baby, whose life was truly at stake. M had not yet experienced bleeding after the injection, but had anxiety that her baby was not okay. M wanted her child as much as A did.
After prayer, I remembered Astrid of Los Angeles Pregnancy Services. I had met her at a conference and instantly liked her. I could only imagine what she might think, but I had her email and immediately sent her an urgent message asking for her help. The patient was close enough to drive to Los Angeles in about 45 minutes.
Instead of a reply email, I received a call from Astrid right away. She understood the situation and offered any help she could give. I asked about a doctor, to which she replied that she could walk my patient down the block to the physician they use for their crisis pregnancies.
I called A and told him to take M—right away—to the doctor in Los Angeles and that the pregnancy resource center would help them with whatever else they needed. Later, Astrid confirmed their arrival and that they were in the process of getting the attention M needed. That night I received a joyous text message from A, telling me that their baby was a alive and had a strong heartbeat. The two of them were over the moon.
It was so gratifying, and such a blessing, to work with Los Angeles Pregnancy Services on the Abortion Pill Reversal protocol and to know that, despite the difficulties facing this young couple, they are determined to be parents to a healthy child. Please pray for them, their baby, and our ministry, as we work to save babies and their parents from the horrors of abortion.
3rd Annual Our Lady's Tea
Tickets are Sold Out!
Please contact Erika Santana to be placed on a waiting list, email or 619-564-3307.
The COLFS staff and volunteers are busy preparing for the 3rd annual Our Lady’s Tea, which attracted over 300 attendees in 2012. This year, it will be held in the garden of the beautiful home of Claire Reiss in La Jolla on May 19, 2013.
Actress Shari Rigby will be the keynote speaker. Shari, who is known for a variety of roles, played the birthmother
in the powerful pro-life movie October Baby.
Last year’s event received rave reviews, especially for the tea cuisine. We are happy to announce that Surfside Catering will again provide the fare for this popular COLFS function. So grab your favorite tea attire—hats are a plus—and visit our website, www.colfs.org, for registration information.
Sign up today while tickets are still available!